40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries is a list of affirmations I created because setting boundaries is one of the best places to start when it comes to your own peace and happiness. 

Setting boundaries is a way of standing up for yourself. These affirmations are meant to help you reinforce your self-worth and empower you to prioritize your needs and your happiness above that of other people in your life. 

What Does a Lack of Boundaries Look Like? 

If you don’t set healthy boundaries, you are likely to constantly be at the disposal of others. You allow them to tell you how to think, feel, and act. You likely lack your own personal individual identity because you are a people pleaser. 

This also means that you likely spend a lot of time and energy doing what others want you to do, and allowing your needs and wants to take a backseat to the needs and demands of others. Saying no may be difficult or even impossible for you to do. 

You likely struggle with articulating your feelings for fear of rejection, ridicule, or even conflict. How others perceive you is a burden, and you strive to make everyone happy around you. It is likely a very heavy burden to carry around with you everyday and feels exhausting. 

What happens when you have no boundaries? You feel powerless. You likely feel like you have absolutely no power or control over your life, your money, and even your time. If you’re experiencing these things, it is time to take a step back and re-evaluate your boundaries. You’ll likely find that setting some boundaries will empower you to regain control over your own life and your overall happiness will improve significantly. 

Will People Be Upset When I Set Boundaries? 

Yes, this will greatly upset some people in your life. People who are accustomed to getting their way don’t like it when things don’t go their way. They have been conditioned to believe that they are entitled to everything they want, and setting boundaries is like a slap in the face because they feel like their power is being taken away. This makes them angry. 

Be prepared to stand strong and firm on your boundaries. If you allow someone to walk over you and disregard your boundaries, you are showing both them and yourself that you have no respect for yourself. 

However this will not happen with everyone. The only people who will be upset with you setting boundaries are the ones who benefitted from you having none. Read that over again and repeat it if necessary. 

Am I Mean or Rude for Setting Boundaries? 

Absolutely not! You are neither mean, rude, or a bad person for setting boundaries. Never let anyone make you feel like you are. Boundaries protect you from being hurt and taken advantage of. They also create and cultivate healthy relationships with clear expectations. 

Boundaries are a sign that you respect yourself, your time, your space, peace, and happiness. It is not only a sign you respect yourself, but a way you show yourself love. 

Setting healthy boundaries through these 40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries will build a greater self-esteem and boost your confidence. This will help you to be more clear on who you are, what you want, and what your values are. 

Setting boundaries helps you understand and articulate what is okay and not okay for you. It is a way of telling others how you want to be treated, and not allowing anything you’re not okay with. Boundaries are essential because they help improve your mental health and your mood. 

Why Do I Struggle with Setting Boundaries? 

Think back on your childhood and consider your upbringing. Young children are often shamed and scolded for having needs and preferences. Since their survival depends on their parents, people-pleasing becomes a great survival tool. Here are some examples you may recognize from your own childhood: 

• You were dismissed, ridiculed, or belittled when you expressed your needs. You may have been labeled as dramatic, difficult, or ungrateful. 
• When you refused to do things that made you uncomfortable, you were scolded, apologized for, and told to be nice. 
• You had too many responsibilities for your age, possibly due to the absence of a parent because of their addiction, physical illness or mental health issues. 
• You were raised by a narcissist who withheld their love and care if you did not behave in a certain way. 
• You felt unsafe due to emotional or physical abuse. 
• Your parents or caregivers were overly worried, concerned, or involved in your life. You felt responsible for their emotions and learned to suppress yours to protect them. 

Your lack of boundaries likely helped you survive childhood. But now as an adult, you deserve to do more than survive. You deserve to thrive. If you feel guilty for setting healthy boundaries, you will want to take a step back and look at why you feel that way. Guilt is merely an outdated coping mechanism that will keep you in survival mode and prevent you from thriving and being able to set healthy boundaries. 

What are the Benefits of Setting Healthy Boundaries? 

There are some amazing benefits to setting healthy boundaries. People will clearly understand your limits and your expectations on how they treat you. 

Setting healthy boundaries through these 40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries will help you to: 

• Build a greater self-esteem. 
• Be clear on who you are, what you want, and what your values are. 
• Bring focus to yourself and your wellbeing. 
• Enhance and improve your mental health. 
• Avoid burnout. 
• Develop independence. 
• Gain a greater sense of identity and individuality. 
• Have more compassion. 
• Greater assertiveness. 
• Your needs are met. 
• Less anger and resentment. 
• Feelings of peace and safety. 
• More time to do things that nourish your mind, body, and spirit, and bring you joy. 
• Feeling respected by yourself and others. 
• Less conflict in relationships. 
• Improved communication. 
• Less anxiety and stress. 
• Feeling understood and accepted by friends and family. 

40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries 

Are you ready to take control of your life with these 40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries? Let’s go!

• I don’t have to please others to be loveable.
• I have the power to speak up when something doesn’t feel right. 
• My needs are just as important as other people’s. 
• My worth is not measured by the approval of others. 
• My desires are just as valid as other people’s. 
• My thoughts and feelings carry value. 
• I have the power to stand up for myself. 
• It is in my control to either accept or allow how I am treated. 
• Every time I practice something, I get better at it. 
• Small steps make a huge difference. 
• I don’t have to answer right away just because someone asked me a question. 
• My needs may be different than those around me and that is perfectly okay. 
• I can state my needs without giving excuses. 
• I can be assertive without being aggressive. 
• I need to make myself a priority. 
• I can choose how to use my time. 
• I trust myself to make the best decisions for my life. 
• I embrace my uniqueness and know that I have value to offer. 
• I am capable of overcoming challenges. 
• I believe in myself and my abilities. 
• I can bounce back from difficulties. 
• I deserve to be heard. 
• I deserve to be treated with respect. 
• My emotions and feelings are valid. 
• I have the power to craft the life I love. 
• I have the right to prioritize my needs. 
• I can act in a way that aligns with my values. 
• I communicate my boundaries assertively and with kindness. 
• I deserve to be surrounded by people who respect me. 
• I release any guilt or shame associated with setting boundaries and prioritize my own self-care. 
• Speaking up for myself is an act of self-love. 
• I am worthy of relationships that respect and honor my values. 
• I trust my intuition and make decisions that are right for me. 
• I acknowledge every small step I take toward my goals. 
• I speak and act in a way that aligns with my authentic self. 
• I am not responsible for pleasing others at the expense of my own needs. 
• I am not responsible for the happiness and satisfaction of others. 
• My value lies in being true to myself, not in meeting the expectations of others. 
• I let go of the fear of rejection and embrace my own worthiness. 
• I am free to be who I am. 

40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries Notes 

Learning to set boundaries is a skill that requires time, practice, and patience. It also requires self-compassion and kindness. That is why these 40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries are so essential in my life, and I hope yours as well.

Discomfort is going to be part of the process, especially in the beginning. Being comfortable with your boundaries and articulating them to others isn’t always fun. Get comfortable being uncomfortable for a little while. Because it takes practice. But the more you practice setting boundaries, the easier it becomes and the more confidence you gain. 

This will also show you who belongs in your life. Remember how I said earlier that the only people who get upset with you setting boundaries are the ones who benefitted from you having none? It will become very obvious very quickly exactly who those people are, and you’ll know who belongs in your life and who doesn’t. 

I encourage you to find specific affirmations from this list that speak to and resonate with you, and start repeating them to yourself daily. You don’t have to use all of them daily. That’s a lot! That is why reading them and finding the ones that will be the most useful to you is the way to go. When you do, write them down, highlight them, and put them where you can see them each and every day. 

Then read them and repeat them to yourself daily, until they become your new normal and you believe them. 

40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries Discussion 

I was so inspired to write these 40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries because boundaries were something I struggled with for many years because I was raised not only by a textbook narcissist, but I was also raised to be a people-pleaser. Developing my own identity was often shamed and criticized, and it took me several years after cutting these family members out of my life to fully break that cycle and learning about who I am and what makes me happy. 

Once I did that, it was kind of amazing just how much I learned and re-discovered about myself. There were a number of things that I had suppressed for so many years that even I had forgotten about them. You know when you hide something for safekeeping and you hide it so well that even you don’t know where it is? It can actually happen with your personality, your characteristics that make you an individual, and even with your dreams and goals. 

One of the reasons that I’m so passionate about my blogs is that I knew when I was about fifteen years old that I wanted to write. But I was afraid because I lived in survival mode and had no personal identity and completely lacked confidence that I convinced myself that I couldn’t do it. I also knew my mother would dismiss the idea as well, as she so often did. 

It took me many more years to find blogging, and to develop The Prepping Wife, The Cooking Wife, The Reading Wife, and here at The Homemaking Wife and fall in love with it. Those were a huge part of developing my identity and learning who I was. Which happened because I finally learned how to set boundaries with people in my life and start saying no. 

I want you to break that cycle too. To develop your own identity, sense of self, be a confident and amazing woman, to be truly happy. Not just surviving, but thriving. Everyone deserves that, and you are the only person who can make that happen for yourself. You deserve that. You owe it to yourself, and you give it to yourself through setting healthy boundaries. That is why these 40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries are so important to me.

Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your life? Have these 40 Easy Reminders to Set Boundaries helped you in any way? Let me know your thoughts in the comments! 

11 Positive Affirmations for Marriage is a list I created to remind myself to stay positive every single day. I’ve been married to my husband, Nathan, since 2008, and it isn’t always easy. Marriage is rewarding and amazing, but that doesn’t mean it is a walk in the park. 

Because I was raised by a textbook narcissist, I have always struggled with negative thinking instead of positive thinking, mindset, and anxiety, among many other things. To become the best version of myself, I have had to fight hard to break these cycles and really develop my own positive habits and thoughts. Struggling with these issues has had an effect on my marriage, not just on me as a person. 

There will always be both good days and bad days in every marriage. It isn’t easy, and nobody is perfect. I can’t always control the things that happen in life, but I can certainly control my attitude about it, and that is the thing I focus on. When I have a good attitude, I find that I am much stronger and more resilient to having bad days or facing challenges. It has helped me be better prepared, and I know a bad day isn’t the end of the world. 

That is why I’ve been creating positive affirmations and journal prompts, to help others in this same situation, because you deserve to be your best self, to shine, and truly be happy. 

Why are affirmations powerful? 

Why are affirmations powerful? Do they even work? If you’re just starting out thinking about affirmations or trying them out, I know you’re asking these exact questions, and you probably have doubts about how useful they are. That’s okay. I’m here to help you. 

Affirmations are powerful because they help reverse negative thinking, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve your mood. Affirmations work, but they also take time. Think of repeating positive affirmations to yourself each day like developing a new habit. It isn’t an overnight process. 

It can take 59-70 days to form a new habit and start breaking old negative habits. That is why consistency with using affirmations is so important. Stick with it, and be patient as you develop a new healthy and positive mindset. 

Are you ready to get started with these 11 Positive Affirmations for Marriage? Come on in and let’s go! 

11 Positive Affirmations for Marriage 

• Our love for each other is strong together. 
• We can get through anything. 
• Our marriage grows stronger each day. 
• Our marriage is built on trust and loyalty. 
• We love each other unconditionally. 
• We are passionate about each other. 
• We are so in love. 
• We are open with each other. 
• We understand each other. 
• We were destined to be together. 
• Nothing can separate us. 

11 Positive Affirmations for Marriage Notes 

I think of my marriage like a bank account. A bank account cannot operate in the red. It has to have a positive amount in it, to be black. We make deposits through a positive attitude, time spent with each other, and anything that is helpful to our marriage. Anything negative is like a withdrawal. Too many withdrawals and the account goes into the red. My own mindset and attitude are part of those deposits and withdrawals. These affirmations are me doing my part to make my marriage as strong as it can be. 

I’ve often been asked if there is a good time of day to practice positive affirmations. There is no one specific answer that works for everyone. It is whenever you want it to be, and can do this every single day consistently. 

My personal preference is when I first wake up and right before I go to bed. I often read a short story and then recite positive affirmations to myself when I wake up and again before I go to bed. That creates a great start and end to my day, helping to ensure my day starts well, and my sleep quality is increased at the end of the day. 

What if I don’t have time to recite positive affirmations each day? That is a question I’ve been asked many times. The answer is, I don’t have time is an excuse. Think about how often you pick up your phone and start mindlessly scrolling through social media. Take one time you do that per day away and replace it with positive affirmations. Boom. You suddenly have time. It really is that simple. 

Making time each day for affirmations is a form of self-care, in my opinion. It is making a commitment to yourself to take the time to change negative habits into positive habits that are healthy and serve you. If you are struggling with finding time, I encourage you to really look at how you spend your day. Because there is time if you want there to be time. You may just have to commit to finding it for yourself. 

11 Positive Affirmations for Marriage Discussion 

Do you struggle with keeping a positive mindset? Are affirmations already important to you, or are you just starting out learning to develop that great habit? Let me know where I can support you by leaving a comment! 

10 Simple Affirmations for Self Doubt is a list I created because doubt is something that touches all of us. Some more than others, but it is something that we’ve all experienced. 

If I’m being honest here, self doubt is something I’ve always struggled with. It affected how I saw myself, caused a lot of overthinking, and a ton of issues in my personal relationships. Self doubt made my confidence even worse, and I hated myself for a very long time. Because I knew what I wanted, but I let my self doubt stand in the way of achieving my goals and finding my purpose, and what made me happy. 

What is self doubt? It is a lack of confidence in yourself and your abilities. It is a mindset that holds you back from not only believing in yourself, but being successful as well. This causes unhappiness and feeling unsatisfied in ourselves. This can become crippling and overwhelming if it is allowed to continue for a prolonged period of time. It can exacerbate depression and anxiety as well. 

What I’ve come to realize is that self doubt can be overcome through positive affirmations. Affirmations are simple phrases we repeat to ourselves when struggling. It isn’t easy when you start this, trust me. I do this daily, and it has really made a difference. Think of it like developing a new habit. It takes time, patience, and consistency. 

The great thing about affirmations is that they help shift your mindset in a positive direction, and soon you will start to believe these things. Our brains believe what we tell them. Why not tell them positive things?! 

Affirmations are a simple way to speak kindly to yourself. This can boost both confidence and happiness, while decreasing stress. We all talk to ourselves, but the problem here is that more often than not, it is negative and overly critical. I’m my own worst enemy in this regard, and you probably are too. It is time to shift that self talk to being more kind, compassionate, patient, and loving toward ourselves. 

Here are my 10 simple affirmations for self doubt. Are you ready to take this step with me? Let’s go! 

10 Simple Affirmations for Self Doubt 

• Doubt is meant to keep me from doing big things, and I won’t let it. 
• Doubt is the Devil’s favorite tool to use on me. 
• I was made to do incredible things. 
• I will live a full, abundant, and wonderful life. 
• I was born to achieve great things. 
• I don’t doubt my potential. 
• I believe in myself. 
• I forgive myself. 
• I deserve love. 
• I am worthy of my dreams. 

10 Simple Affirmations for Self Doubt Notes 

If you have suffered any kind of abuse or trauma, especially as a child, but at any age, then you are likely struggling like I have with self doubt. It is often very difficult to see yourself in a positive way. I was raised by a textbook narcissist, who put down every idea I had ever had and attempted to voice. Needless to say, I stopped talking about it and let myself believe the hateful things my mother had to say, and it wasn’t an easy cycle to break. 

There are still many truths I’m coming to terms with and finding the courage to voice, even as a full grown adult, due to this abuse. Because I was so good at hiding the truth, oftentimes, I hid it from myself as well as everyone else. That was a coping mechanism that I no longer need in my life. 

It took me many years to not only find my purpose, but to believe in my own abilities, and find the courage to make my dreams happen. I knew when I was 14 that I wanted to write. But I let that self doubt stop me from even trying. It wasn’t until I was 32 that I found the courage to start The Prepping Wife, and let my writing grow from there into three more blogs. I found my purpose, and I finally understand and own the fact that no one can take that from me now. 

I want you to find your purpose, and believe in yourself. I am very lucky that I have a friend who has always been my biggest fan in everything I do. He believes in me in a way I struggled with for many years. I always said that if I could see myself the way he did, then I would be unstoppable. This caused me to realize that I needed to see myself the way he did. It was a necessity to see myself the same way he did. His amazing support wasn’t enough if I didn’t believe in myself. Because I do have the capability to believe in myself and actually be unstoppable. 

That is what prompted me to create these 10 simple affirmations for self doubt. I want the same thing for you. I want you to realize that you are unstoppable, and doubt cannot hinder you from reaching your goals, being happy, and achieving greatness. Because you are so much more capable than you realize, and I want you to find that belief within yourself. 

10 Simple Affirmations for Self Doubt Discussion 

Do you experience self doubt often? Is it intense and/or overwhelming for you? Have you tried these 10 simple affirmations for self doubt yourself? Are they making a difference? How can I help support you in your journey toward letting go of your own self doubt? Let me know your thoughts in the comments! 

7 Affirmations for a kind mind is what is on my mind today. Because kindness is essential in life, and something I often think the world needs a lot more of. The best place to start being kind is toward ourselves! 

We cannot be kind to others if we are not kind to ourselves first. That is where this list of 7 affirmations for a kind mind started. I needed to make a list of ways to be kind to myself, and then share it with you so you can do the same thing. 

What Do Affirmations Accomplish? 

Affirmations are positive statements that can help to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts and mindsets. 

By repeating them and believing them, there is a mindset shift in a much more positive direction, and it can help with making healthy changes in your life. 

Why Are Affirmations Important? 

A wise person once told me that our brain is the biggest muscle in our bodies, and that is something that has stuck with me ever since. Because it is the truth. Affirmations help exercise our brains and put them to good use through positivity. 

This makes affirmations extremely important because they have the power to help with motivation, concentrating on achieving goals, and change negative thinking habits into positive ones. 

Affirmations are a huge confidence booster, and every woman can use more confidence in their lives. 

7 Affirmations for a Kind Mind 

• I welcome my feelings and allow them to flow through me. 
• I am safe within myself. 
• I don’t want what doesn’t want me. 
• I have permission to rest. 
• I am worthy of love from myself and from others. 
• I am more than what I get done. 
• I have purpose in this world. 

I Welcome My Feelings and Allow Them to Flow Through Me 

When it comes to feelings, especially negative ones, we need to allow them to happen. Don’t try to avoid them, because they will just hunt you down and keep coming after you. They literally haunt you until you acknowledge them and have the courage to face them, and if we’re being honest here, running from them is exhausting. 

Allow the feelings to come, own them, embrace them, and then let them go. Let them flow through you. 

I Am Safe Within Myself 

If you’ve ever experienced trauma or abuse, then you know how important safety is, especially within yourself. The transition from surviving to thriving involves learning to feel safe within yourself, and I think that is essential to every aspect of our lives. 

Remind yourself that you are safe, your mind, thoughts, and feelings are a safe place to be. You’re safe in your own skin. 

I Don’t Want What Doesn’t Want Me 

Don’t ever chase anything but your dreams. This is especially true when it comes to people. The ones who are meant to be in your life will show up continuously and prove why they want to be there and why they deserve your time, energy, and attention. 

I have a firm belief that when we decide exactly what we want in life, the universe will shift to start giving that to us. Don’t be afraid to set your goals and say no to anything and everything that doesn’t serve that purpose. 

I Have Permission to Rest 

Rest is essential! But it can easily feel like laziness instead of important. I find this especially true because I work for myself. There is no one here to tell me when to work, or how important it is, or the fear of not having a job if I need to rest or don’t feel good. 

But the truth is without rest, we risk major burnout in every aspect of our lives. We need to take care of ourselves in order to take care of others and have the energy to nurture other relationships. 

Giving ourselves permission to rest and take the time for self-care is essential to our mental and physical health. My favorite way to rest is by taking the time to read a good book.

I Am Worthy of Love From Myself and Others 

If you need reasons to love yourself, click here and let me tell you why! Love and kindness go hand in hand. Loving yourself and understanding you are absolutely worthy of love from yourself is a major step toward kindness. 

I Am More than What I Get Done 

If you skipped out on housework today because you were tired and decided to rest, or simply spend time with your family, that is great. Nobody is perfect, and nobody is coming to arrest you because you skipped mopping the floor today. 

You are more than that! You are worth so, so much more than just the things you do everyday. Imperfect is completely normal and should be embraced, because you are worth a lot more. 

I Have Purpose in This World 

This right here is something that nobody can take away from you! When you realize that and truly believe it, you will become unstoppable. You have a purpose. Each and every single person in this world has a purpose. 

Embrace that fact and let that empower you. 

7 Affirmations for a Kind Mind Notes 

Kindness is something that starts from within. We cannot be kind to other people until we are kind to ourselves first. Show yourself both kindness and grace through these seven affirmations and watch the amazing changes that happen in your life! 

When you show yourself kindness and love, it becomes really easy to see who isn’t kind or loving toward themselves or others, and it is easier to let go of those people from our lives. This also produces a very positive result, because those aren’t the kind of people you want in your circle. 

But that change starts within you. You may not be able to change the world, but you can change yourself, and that is a great place to start! 

7 Affirmations for a Kind Mind Discussion 

Do you practice positive affirmations? Is it something that you are interested in doing? Have these affirmations helped you in any way? Let me know your thoughts in the comments!