Habits of Confident Women
I recently wrote about boosting your confidence because as a woman, I think self-confidence is one of the most important things we can have. I also think confident women are sexy. Yep, you heard me. Confident women are sexy.
Confidence requires habits that we should focus on developing each and every day. Here are my 10 habits of confident women that I’m also working toward doing every day.
Keep your goals in mind at ALL times
When you focus on your goals and plans, it is harder to be distracted by trivial and unimportant things. Drive and motivation keep us busy with reaching our goals, and it is really hard to hear the haters out there if we’re too busy to give them the time! Focus on your goals and work hard. That is a huge confidence booster.
Write your goals down on paper. Go old school with pen and paper. Because that makes your goals real, and you make yourself more accountable that way. Put them somewhere you can see them daily, and get to work.
Use and embody positive body language
Positive body language sends signals to everyone that you are confident and successful before you’ve even spoken a single word. This is the most visual way to portray confidence.
If you aren’t sure how your body language is coming across to others, just ask someone close to you to give you feedback. Make sure it is someone you trust and value their opinion.
Positive body language are shoulders back, not slumped or down, arms down, but not crossed, good posture, standing up straight, and relaxed facial expressions.
Use time management effectively
Time management doesn’t mean perfection, because that is a skill we all learn throughout our lives. But confident women make a true effort to maximize their time.
Confident women know the value of their time and don’t waste it on things that don’t align with their goals. Time management allows us to accomplish more and therefore feel more confident.
Say no to things that don’t align with your goals
Saying no is one of the most important things women can learn in their lives! It is essential to your happiness and overall health.
If you are struggling with this, ask yourself if something aligns with your goals. It is a simple yes or no question, don’t complicate it. If the answer is no that it doesn’t align with your goals, say no to it, and keep right on moving forward.
Don’t avoid new challenges
Confident women know just how strong and capable they are! Which means they know they can handle new challenges, even if they are scary.
Challenges are also opportunities. I like to focus on the fact they are opportunities more than how scary it can be. I’ve learned more by challenging myself and taking that opportunity when it is presented than I have by sticking to my comfort zone, and I’m grateful every time I do.
Focus on personal growth
Learning and improving are a constant part of our lives, and it is so important. There are always opportunities to learn and improve, and become the best version of yourself.
Personal growth looks different for everyone, but there are always opportunities to work toward that goal. What does it mean to you?
Speak with clarity
Stop using filler words! This includes words like, um, like, uh, and. My personal go-to word is like, if anyone wants to know. But words like this tell people you don’t know what you want to say, or that you aren’t confident enough to articulate it clearly and correctly.
If you’ve ever had a conversation where you don’t respect the person you’re talking to because they don’t project confidence, then you know exactly what I’m talking about here. Let’s avoid being the person you don’t respect because of their lack of confidence!
If you aren’t sure if you’re using too many of these words, ask someone you trust, and let them tell you. Then start paying attention to how you speak. Once you notice it and are aware that this is a problem, you can take steps to correct it, and start speaking with clarity and conviction. That will be a huge confidence booster.
Know and address weakness
We all have weaknesses. Every single person on this planet. Haters love to find them too, and exploit that to hurt us. But a confident woman is one who can fully acknowledge and accept that they have weaknesses and are not perfect.
This allows you to take steps to work on those weaknesses and improve yourself, which will then improve your confidence.
Don’t compete with others
You know the old phrase, ‘cooperation, not competition’? Confident women don’t need to compete with anyone else. There is no need to beat anyone else, as it isn’t a race. Confident women know their worth, their strength, and their success without having to minimize someone else’s just to show their own.
Unhealthy competition is not how you grow! Focus on yourself and improve whatever aspect of your life you need to. If you allow unhealthy competition to cloud your mind, it will get in the way of your goals. Remember habit number one? Focus on your goals. Know that confident women don’t need to compete with anyone else.
Part of being a confident woman is knowing and understanding that nothing is perfect, and it never will be. I’ll be the first to admit that I struggle hard with this one. I’m a perfectionist and I lack patience. I want everything to always be perfect, and go according to the plan in my head. But it never actually happens that way, and I’m working on accepting that.
The key to being confident is knowing that you don’t need perfection to be happy and successful. Know what you are worth, and be proud of both accomplishments and imperfections.
Habits of Confident Women Discussion
Remember that confidence is something you need to focus on to keep improving. One of my favorite phrases is “what you focus on grows” and I think this absolutely applies to my goal of becoming a more confident woman.
This isn’t an overnight success either. It takes time and practice. Lots of practice, if we’re being honest here. But that’s why it is called a habit. Habits take time to develop. Be patient with yourself as you focus on becoming a more confident woman! You can do it!
Have these 10 habits helped you find where you need to focus to become a more confident woman? Are there some you’re always great at and rock on a daily basis? Tell me about both what you’re good at and where you need to improve in the comments! I want to celebrate and support you in your journey!